Some of the ANTs are there for a real reason. I mentioned “survivor brain” last week. Imagine your ancestor, exposed in the bush. That sound of a twig breaking could signal a number of things. If you are a mother guarding her young, your first thought will likely be that it’s a predator. That feeling in your gut is pre-historic, and it’s caused by the ANTs—the automatic negative…
… not because your ill.… not because it’s a light day.… not because of anything……but, because you *can*. This is for the eagles out there… sheer excellence, nothing less. Select your busiest day, the morning of, and simply clear it. Then “DND”your phone and auto response or delegate your emails. Why? ✅…because you place a premium on the white space to simply think and strategize your next move✅…because…
Why do you even have limiting beliefs that hold you back? According to cognitive behavioral theory (CBT), we all have automatic negative thoughts (ANTs). In neuroscience, this is the inner critic, but guess what, she’s our “survivor brain.” I’ll have more about that on Thursday’s #NSCJournalPrompt. But here is what you need to do to silence your inner critic. Catch and control the ANTs: ✔️ Catch them early—as…
Our parents taught us to do it. You know… Live two lives. It’s that form of code switching that just about every working person has tried at least once in their lives: other than a couple photos of family on the desktop wall paper or on your desk, you pretty much keep to yourself. All they know about you at the job is your work during business hours.…
“No one goes it alone.” You’ve heard that one before, and it’s true. But I joke that my business requires bodies and bots to make it tick. One way that I’ve been able to start up my businesses and make them viable quickly is technology. After all, I walk my talk about these “weapons of mass innovation.” No way it has ever been “just me” except for when…
Is your biggest flex that you’ve never actually sought a role in your career…people just came to you? I can relate. About 90% of the positions in my career were “taps on the shoulder.” But is this really a way to live? You’re excellent, don’t get me wrong, but what if you took that excellence and moved with a little intent? I’m not talking about making a move…
How are you doing against your goals? It isn’t that you aren’t meeting or exceeding them. You’re slaying everyday. It’s that you haven’t communicated the impact… You need measures. Today’s #NSCRockstarLeadership tip of the day focuses on two ways to make your accomplishments mean something—not only to you, but to the decision-makers and gatekeepers who can help move you closer to the C-Suite. And our focus is on…
Imposter syndrome has become a popular catch-all phrase for all sorts of self-doubt. But is what you are feeling really imposter syndrome? Let’s take a moment to talk about your confidence without all the trendy, arm-chair psychology that has become popular on the Internet and at women’s conferences. The term itself has been around since the 70s, but sometimes what you are feeling is simply a lack of…
Is the intentional experience people have with you. Everything you do to ensure it is simply an expression of it or an amplification of it. Your goal is to produce loyalty. Surprisingly, you can actually accomplish this with limited awareness. So if you only have three followers, it’s about them being true believers and if they are willing to jump into action for you—beyond likes and comments. What…
To all the FHamily in my social media community, I’m looking forward to making a little history with you at your first-ever Diversity, Equity & Inclusion Summit Oct 11-15. I’ll be sharing on two days at this internal event—Oct 12 & 13— hosting what I’m planning to be two thoughtful, reflective and actionable leadership development sessions. That means I will speak twice, and you’ll get double the…